Here is the list of Official Participants for the April Read-A-Thon:
they’re pretty good, but the first book (beautiful disaster) is the best. it’s like crack.
Why can’t we just like what we like and not like what we don’t like without someone jumping on us? And why...
Title: A Little Bit of Everything Lost
Author: Stephanie Elliot
Genre: Contemporary Fiction
Publisher: Stephanie Elliot
Publication Date: April 10, 2014
Format: Kindle Edition Ebook
My rating: 5 of 5 stars
I first need to say that I am SO glad I decided to grab this novel when it came out! This is the first of Elliot’s works that I’ve read, but I’ll be reading the others now – I’m a fan.
Jumping between Marnie’s, the main character, summer love and her current day life, Elliot tells the story of a fierce first love and whirlwind summer romance. One that sets things in motion for Marnie that affect her all the way into adulthood. When life gets a little stagnant, though she’s currently married to a man she believes is a wonderful husband and has two healthy children, Marnie’s left wondering what might have been between herself and Joe.
Elliot’s writing of the whirlwind romance is amazing – I loved those chapters. Reading about Marnie and Joe and all their escapades, both in and out of the bedroom, was exciting and nostalgic. It seemed to transport me back to my own college summers. Likewise, the authenticity of the chapters about Marnie’s current life pulled me in – I ached for her. I desperately wanted Marnie to find her answers and to find solace. And in those chapters what Elliot did was create a character that we, as the readers, know has lots of great things going in her life. Yet she’s still unhappy for many reasons (all get revealed in due time). It is easy to get tired of a character like that – easy to dislike, but Elliot’s prose ensures that doesn’t happen. She’s balanced Marnie’s secrets, unhappiness, and unrest about the past with a strong, well-developed character who doesn’t simply wallow in negativity and never grow or learn. Marnie never comes off as simply whiny or entitled. Quite simply I loved Marnie and I sympathized. I loved living her story for a few days.
As mentioned above, there are secrets throughout this novel. Some are Marnie’s while others belong to the supporting cast. Props again to Elliot’s writing style as she wove answers into the details all throughout the story. Once I picked up the book and started reading, a single moment didn’t go by where I wasn’t wondering what was next or how a situation would be resolved. I even caught myself thinking of the characters as if they were real people in my life; wondering what they were doing while I wasn’t with them.
A little bit about young, first love, a little bit about the disappointment sometimes experienced in adulthood, a little bit about friendship, a little bit about forgiveness (both of ourselves and others), a little bit about mistakes, and a whole lot about the people and things in life that we gain and sometimes lose, this book is one to pick up.
*NOTE: when proofing and reviewing my review I noticed the “little bit” usage in my final paragraph and realized that I had unintentionally included quite the pun. When writing it I didn’t even recognize what I was doing!
**EDIT: I had to come back today because after talking with a couple friends about the book, I remembered one key element I didn’t mention - Elliot’s sexy scenes. I’ll preface with this: I don’t generally love sexy scenes. I’m sure they are hard to write, and quite often they are hard to read, but there are several in this story that made me weak in the knees!! I loved every word of them - EVERY.WORD. And I will never be able to be in the presence of a lemon and not have my mind wandering off into exciting places ;-)
It’s funny how movie producers will say “no one wants to see a movie exactly like the book so we have to change it to make it interesting for them” when you would never catch a book fan saying ” that movie was too much like the book, I hated it”
NEVER gonna happen! They aren’t catering to book readers, they’re catering to those who haven’t read the book anyway so they shouldn’t even try to act like they’re making the movie better for us (the readers).
Anything 20 years in the past is historical fiction.
Well, damn, now I feel really OLD!
A blog that I follow has a trigger list. It lists books that may contain certain mental triggers for people who have experienced traumatic events in their lives and may endure physical and physiological setback if put in situations where they are confronted with the events they’re working to manage and process. Furthermore, there are, simply put, people who don’t like to read about certain subjects because it makes them uncomfortable or they just plain don’t like it.
Additionally, many blogs tag posts they feel may contain triggers as well – for the same reasons as written above. This is done out of common courtesy. Out of the realization that in our world there are many people who have faced many things. Out of an understanding that some are still actively trying to manage those things they have experienced – actively trying to process and heal. Trigger warnings and lists help those dealing with myriad feelings, emotions, and fears avoid books, movies, and other media that might cause them setbacks – mild to severe. To others it provides a way of avoiding content they prefer not to experience for ANY reason whether it triggers something for them or not.
For instance, if you experience migraines, your doctor might give you a list of triggers – things to avoid in order to prevent migraines. Trigger lists for things like rape, abuse, kidnapping, etc are the same exact thing – they follow the same logic. If someone has experienced a rape situation, a list of books that contain that subject, sometimes in graphic detail, is helpful in preventing feelings of self harm, experiences of flashback, and debilitating anxiety just to name a few things.
As for those who use the lists and warnings as a way to avoid certain content, I’ll use the rape and/or general abuse of a child. That is a hard subject to read for anyone and many just want to avoid it. Reading the content is simply not enjoyable for them and maybe is even the opposite – uncomfortable, fear-inducing, etc.
I know many people who will not read or watch anything which includes the death of a pet. It just isn’t something they want to experience. And quite frankly that’s okay – it is their right to choose what they will and won’t willingly read or watch.
So, if this is the reason for trigger lists on Tumblr (and any other forum) why are fellow bloggers taking time and energy to attack those who take the time to take these extra precautions? Why are we, as a society, being so judgmental? In a world where so much information is available, so readily, why not have ways of disseminating that information so people can decide what they will and will not avoid?
I’d ask you to remember—before anonymously* going on a tirade over something someone is spending their own time on, over something that has NOTHING to do with you, over something that will not impact you AT ALL—remember that another human being with feelings, opinions, responsibilities, choices, rights, and their own life events is on the other end. Also remember that even you have the ability to skip past the content that you don’t like, don’t understand, or otherwise wish others wouldn’t post – scroll on past to the stuff you do want to see and let others do the same.
booksfrommyshelf – keep doing what you’re doing and delete the ridiculousness that comes your way. People can be mean and petty, especially when they don’t take time to understand something. All other bloggers that have similar lists or use trigger warnings in posts, keep doing what you’re doing and also delete the ridiculousness that comes your way. We NEED people who care about what others are going through. We NEED a community of bloggers that is aware of their reach and also takes that seriously. Our world NEEDS people who care about other people (it is as simple as that) and we cannot let the few who don’t care or don’t understand dictate the blogging community, or any other community for that matter.
*This cracks me up – I mean, really? If you’re so sure of your very valid comment, why do it anonymously? Why not let the person you’re questioning or maybe even attacking know who you are? Why hide? The internet creates such a false sense of superiority and power in some people, it really is sad.